If you give a girl a cousin….

If you give a girl a cousin,

She’ll become best friends with her.

 

And when she becomes best friends with her.

She’ll share her clothes, gossip, and time in her presence.

 

She’ll grow comfortable, and gain all trust.

She’ll laugh with her, share stories, make memories,

But she will cry with her too.

 

And when she cries with her,

She’ll learn that someone will be there to catch every fall.

 

And when someone is there to catch her every fall,

She’ll know how deeply loved she is,

She’ll grow.

 

She’ll grow into a woman,

One with someone who has her back,

 

And when she has someone who has her back,

She’ll take on life fearless.

 

And once she’s fearless,

She will conquer her highest goals.

 

And when those goals are conquered,

Her cousin will follow in her path.

 

And when her cousin follows her path,

They will live.

 

And when they live,

They will share memories, laughs, and tears.

 

They will always have each other,

For years, and years, and years.

So if you give a girl a cousin,

She’ll probably ask for more

#WAGSWAG

For those of you who don’t know, I left my job at Ramada, and accepted a job at Walgreens with Haley & my brother’s girlfriend and our friend, Megan. I have been there for two days so far, and have really enjoyed my time there.

I am so excited to be working with some great people, and hope that it stays that way! 🙂 ☺♥

Encouragement. With gifs!

So this is a post from our first guest blogger: my roommate, Natalie. Thanks so much for contributing!

Society has come a long way from the 1950s, but sadly there are still people out in the world that are going to tell you that you can’t do something and will doubt your abilities. Remind yourself to smile and nod to them, and prove them all wrong.

When I announced I wanted to become a nurse, many of the people that were close to me actually doubted my ability to pass in my nursing classes, let alone get into a nursing program. I am proud to say I am in a very highly ranked nursing school in the state, and I am passing all my classes. SO TAKE THAT HATERS!

So if someone is doubting your abilities use this helpful guide

1. Smile and nod

2. Maybe make a face behind their back

 

3. Go home and plot

4. Work hard to achieve success

5. Fail and repeat step 4 until it happens (because you probably won’t succeed on the first try tbh)

6. Succeed and bask in the glory of being proud of yourself

7. Let haters hear on their own

8. Have their bad vibes fuel your success and keep rockin it, you queen

I will not apologize.

I have friends and even family members that disagree with the way I live my life, and that’s okay. It’s okay to not want tattoos, or strange colored hair, or date boys who you know people wont approve of. What is not okay is people telling me how I should be living.

I will not apologize that I chose to get tattoos. Each of my tattoos has a special meaning to me, and I plan on getting more than that.

I will not apologize for being pro-choice. A woman’s body is just that, her body, not mine to choose for her.

I will not apologize for having purple hair. Did you know that the domestic violence and epilepsy awareness ribbons are purple? I’ve been through both and I’m proud to share that.

I will not apologize for dating boys that people don’t approve of. I will date who makes me happy regardless of religion or anything else they believe.

I will not apologize for being a feminist. I believe that we should all be equal, both men and women. We should not be fighting each other, but fighting against the stereotypes.

In short, I will not apologize for living the way I please, and you shouldn’t be either. Explore your options in life, don’t stay living in one place because someone told you to. You are your own person so embrace it!

 

When it’s really over…

How can you tell if your relationship is really over? Is it when they say it’s over? Or when you can finally smile and realize you’re an independent woman who “don’t need no man’?  Here’s how I know it’s really over…

1. When you can wake up and actually got out of bed without thinking about him.
2. You can see him in public and your heart doesn’t skip a beat anymore.
3. You realize that his arms never fit perfectly around you.
4. Going to restaurants that were his favorites isn’t a big deal anymore.
5. You feel genuinely happy when you see him happy with another girl (or at least you don’t hate that he’s in another relationship)

I will openly admit that at this point, some of these aren’t true for me, but someday they will be.

Dating In The Hook-up World

Tinder. Plenty of Fish. Hook-ups. That’s all I seem to hear about these days. Guys who tick off the number of girls they’ve slept with, girls gossiping about the cute guys they had over the night before. I personally don’t find that to be fun or interesting. If you’re into the hook-up scene, you might want to stop reading now.

I’m a girl who strives to be loved, and these days that’s hard to find. I’ve made it my goal to find someone who isn’t going to be gone by the sunrise, and do you know how hard that is? Maybe it’s just because I’m in college, but you’d think other people would realize that the clock keeps ticking, and you never know what day is the last.

Ladies, I’m speaking directly to you now. We need to be done with slut-shaming and support each other in happy and healthy relationships rather than getting in on the hook-up culture. I believe that the more we support dating and romance the less hook-ups will be talked about. Some people may thing it’s cool to get their number up into the double digits, but is that going to get you anywhere? Nope, just feeling empty.

Together let’s stop the hook-up culture completely.

With Love,

The girl who still believes in true love.

Long Distance

What’s long distance? Different towns? States? How about any distance that’s too far apart to travel every day. I’m sure we all wish we could see our significant others every day, but unfortunately, our lives don’t always make that possible. Once we start moving out of our parents’ houses and starting college, we spread out. One goes to college where they grew up, the other picks a school an hour away. On to that pile on the crazy work hours and mountains of homework. Mix that with some raging hormones, tears and stress. Also the fact that the one person you really want a hug from isn’t there, and your free time doesn’t match up for another week. It all sounds doomed to fail, right?

It doesn’t have to be. The odds might be against you, but you just have to focus on all the good stuff. How when, after the crazy mess of a week you had, you finally get that hug, and you know why you work for it. You remember why you tried it in the first place, and you know you couldn’t give it up. They’re too important for you to give in when it gets rough. You both know you’re worth the effort. So if you’re ever thinking it’s not worth it, remember how it feels when you finally are together.

If this attempt at motivation isn’t doing it for you, check out the list below.

 

*Long distance is one of the hardest things on a relationship.

*Counting down days to see each other is just as bad as sitting on hot coals. It’s like seeing candy you want but not being able to have it yet.

*The ride to see each other seems like the longest ride ever.

*The week/weekend/days that you are together seems to fly by and soon enough you’re back on your way home.

*Skype, Snapchat, and texting slowly consumes your life.

*Being tired, stressed out, and near tears is so much worse because you don’t want to ruin their day if they’re having a good day, or if they don’t know how bad it is.

 

As much as I make it seem like a terrible thing, there are good things I learned about during my time in a LDR.

*You get really great at learning to be alone and how to learn more about yourself.

*Making new friends! I made so many new friends because I didn’t have a boyfriend to rely on to hang out with all the time.

*The first hug and kiss after not seeing each other for a few weeks is pure heaven.

*I never thought I would say this, but I grew so much as an individual and we grew as a couple.

 

See? Not all long distance relationships are bad. Keep them alive by sending care packages, letters, and silly cards. If it’s possible show up and surprise them! There are so many opportunities to keep the relationship exciting, you just need to open your mind!
With love,

The Black Sheep

Motivation

Somedays I just go on the quotes page of pinterest for motivation. Here’s some for you..